Thanks Carolyn. IIRC you also had the difficult task of breaking to us the news about Bruce Frigard (winesonoma) (whose thread maybe also should have been pinned, or will that trend start getting too depressing?)
Thank you, everyone, for your kind words and thoughts. I'll be printing this thread out for Trevor to read when he is ready. He is mostly just numb right now. As am I. It has been a rough few days in dealing with all of this.
Anyway, we are lucky to have such a willing and caring go-between. Many thanks.