As the saying goes, "From your mouth to...." :rolleyes:
To prune the plant:
-if you want a shrub: remove one third of the oldest, thickest stems at their base each year for three years.
-if you want a tree: prune up from the bottom, but don't forget to deadhead
Hope you keep the boyfriend long enough to see the results.
Thanks for the pruning advice; I owe him one, he reglued one of the drawers on my Hoosier cabinet.